The Invisible Loss Iceberg: A Pregnancy Loss Grief Handout is a gentle, 2-page printable handout full of soft watercolor illustrations, with short, simple wording. It pairs with the Held in Love pregnancy loss workbook.
WHAT'S INCLUDED
Page 1 is a twilight watercolor iceberg. Above the water is what others see ("She seems fine," back at work, "You can try again"). Below the water is what's often hidden: hopes and plans, the future I imagined, guilt and "what ifs," body changes, jealousy, fear, the due date, and feeling alone. It includes a short, gentle note on disenfranchised (unseen) grief, a tip for loved ones, and ways an unseen grief can be seen. Page 2 is a fill-in iceberg with write-in lines above and below the water, plus what I wish people knew, what I need from others, someone safe to show my iceberg to, and three reflection prompts.
Delivery: Instant digital download (PDF). No physical item will be shipped. Print as many copies as you need for personal use.
WHO IS THIS FOR?
Anyone grieving a miscarriage or other pregnancy loss, whenever it happened, and partners who are grieving too. The wording lets each person choose their own words (baby, pregnancy, a name, or something else). A therapist or counselor may also choose to use it with clients.
CREDIT
The term "disenfranchised grief" was introduced by grief researcher Dr. Kenneth Doka. This handout uses original wording and art and is not affiliated with or endorsed by him.
PLEASE NOTE
This handout is for psychoeducation and self-reflection only. It is not medical advice, a diagnosis, treatment, or a substitute for medical or mental health care, and no specific results are promised. If you are struggling, please reach out to a licensed professional. In the US, Postpartum Support International's HelpLine is 1-800-944-4773 (not for emergencies). In a crisis, call or text 988, or call 911 in an emergency.
Created by Colorful Emotions Counseling | Ashley Gonzalez, M.S.
The Invisible Loss Iceberg: A Pregnancy Loss Grief Handout is a gentle, 2-page printable handout full of soft watercolor illustrations, with short, simple wording. It pairs with the Held in Love pregnancy loss workbook.
WHAT'S INCLUDED
Page 1 is a twilight watercolor iceberg. Above the water is what others see ("She seems fine," back at work, "You can try again"). Below the water is what's often hidden: hopes and plans, the future I imagined, guilt and "what ifs," body changes, jealousy, fear, the due date, and feeling alone. It includes a short, gentle note on disenfranchised (unseen) grief, a tip for loved ones, and ways an unseen grief can be seen. Page 2 is a fill-in iceberg with write-in lines above and below the water, plus what I wish people knew, what I need from others, someone safe to show my iceberg to, and three reflection prompts.
Delivery: Instant digital download (PDF). No physical item will be shipped. Print as many copies as you need for personal use.
WHO IS THIS FOR?
Anyone grieving a miscarriage or other pregnancy loss, whenever it happened, and partners who are grieving too. The wording lets each person choose their own words (baby, pregnancy, a name, or something else). A therapist or counselor may also choose to use it with clients.
CREDIT
The term "disenfranchised grief" was introduced by grief researcher Dr. Kenneth Doka. This handout uses original wording and art and is not affiliated with or endorsed by him.
PLEASE NOTE
This handout is for psychoeducation and self-reflection only. It is not medical advice, a diagnosis, treatment, or a substitute for medical or mental health care, and no specific results are promised. If you are struggling, please reach out to a licensed professional. In the US, Postpartum Support International's HelpLine is 1-800-944-4773 (not for emergencies). In a crisis, call or text 988, or call 911 in an emergency.
Created by Colorful Emotions Counseling | Ashley Gonzalez, M.S.
